Where Is My Child and Is He Okay? (A book in progress)
From the moment I became a parent there were two questions that became first and foremost in my mind: Where is my child and is he okay? Even when my children were infants and seldom left my side, I still had those moments. I can remember watching my babies when they were in deep sleeps just to make sure that they were still breathing. Whenever I left them with a babysitter or at nursery school, throughout the time that I was separated from them, I would wonder where they were and if they were okay. I simply had to know. It was a constant theme that permeated almost everything else that I did, once I became a parent.
When I lost my 22-year-old son Daniel to an overdose of alcohol and prescription drugs on July 1, 2008, it was unthinkable for me to imagine life going on without him, not knowing where he was or if he was okay! I think for most parents, along with the unfathomable sense of loss, not being able to answer those questions evokes enormous suffering because it goes against all parental instincts! After so many years of tracking the well-being of this child, how are you supposed stop now?
I’m here to say that you don’t have to stop because your children have not stopped nor have they been erased from the universe. Their physical bodies have stopped, but the essential energy that animated those bodies has not stopped. I know this because in the past two and a half years since Danny has passed, he has come through in so many significant and various ways, that I’d have to be in denial NOT to accept that he exists.
In the following chapters I will present my case for the survival of personality after death, and by that I do not mean some vague, nebulous resemblance to someone you once knew, but the unique personality of the person you knew and loved. I will share with you the experiences and communications that constitute what I refer to as Danny coming through. The evidence will be displayed for your evaluation because if Danny exists, then your child exists too.
I know that each of you has your own beliefs about God. Some of you believe in heaven while others question if there is a God at all. I can only talk about what I know and that is this: there is a bigger picture that extends beyond our physical existence. No life simply ends at the point of physical death and therefore even the word death is a misnomer. The physical body dies when the essential energy that powered it separates from it, however that essential energy itself does not die, but passes into another realm of existence. I know this because Dan has passed into that realm and from that place where he now exists, he has communicated and shown himself to me in ways too numerous and too evidential for me to deny.
In the past two and a half years I have been able to communicate with Dan through reputable mediums as well as through my own thoughts, feelings and dreams. As a result I feel that Dan and I are continuing our relationship. Of course it’s not the same and there are days when missing him hurts me deeply. But then there are days when I feel Dan walking alongside me, and considering that he has passed, that’s a pretty great feeling.
It is my intention in writing this book to show you that you can connect up with your child precisely because the being that looked out at you through your child’s eyes still exists, still loves you and also desires this connection.
In On May 30, 2010 I took part in a session with medium Reverend Hoyt Robinette. I asked Danny if he had a message for the other bereaved parents that I reach out to. This is what he said.
“Tell them that we may have been torn from their sight and torn from their grasp but we have not been torn from their hearts, nor has our spirit been removed from theirs. We are as close as your breath.”